To say that forgiveness signals intelligence is to imply that unforgiveness signals stupidity. It does…mean just that! Part of the reason that people can’t easily forgive others has to do with the level of emotional attachment one has to the wrong that’s been done. Our emotions cling to the wrong as if for dear life, thereby clouding all sensible judgment regarding forgiveness. Clinging to the wrong as well is a sign of self-respect and self-preservation, for how dare anybody hurt us in the manner in which he or she hurt us!
Blah, blah, blah.
As if we, ourselves, have never hurt anyone, deliberately or unintentionally. To all sorts of degrees, we all have committed such crimes against each other.
But my question is why is it OK for us to hurt people but not OK for people to hurt us? Why do we assume that only we have the exclusive on this and nobody else does? Why do we fix our attention on such one-sidedness and are adamant about it, and not give our fellow man the same privilege, of forgiveness, that we give to ourselves?
Sometimes we think we are too special and owe no one forgiveness, and that, right there, makes us nonintelligent. Everyone is special. Everyone is unique, even if outlined by the same male or female cookie cutter.
Here’s the thing: every one of us makes mistakes, and the laws of the land and of the universe are in place to carry out the sentences for those mistakes. Not to mention, that God alone has said, “Vengeance is mine” and therefore, we need not dirty our hands, mind, or hearts in seeking revenge or wishing ill upon the perpetrator. God brings things around, full circle.
Do yourself a favor and always keep yourself in check. If or when someone wrongs you, step back and quickly ask yourself if you’re innocent in the bigger picture. But be honest with yourself because more-than-likely you haven’t always been so innocent.
Clearly, there are times when a wrongdoer gets your goat and needs a shakeup, a smack across the face or a kick in the… wherever the kick may fold him or her over, for the wrong being committed. But, even then, after your emotions have clung to the wrong and you’ve satisfied them with your reaction to the wrongdoer, let go of the issue, for forgiveness signals intelligence.